I do get off the trail in other ways and it is fun and can be scary, but that is the fun part. However, the problem arises that no one ever measures up. I love getting lost, too. Meditation is something I’ve found to be so good for the inner-going, as well (now, to just do that more regularly for me!!!). What a gift we’ve been given. These words by Robert Frost, especially, are ones that I find such peace and comfort in…. The sandbox is a perfect place to start….and stepping out of it, the possibilities for love and life are as many as the grains of sand within the box:), So happy to start my day reading your beauty in words! And there love is, and there love begins and it is all so beautiful and so good. I have written about this very same concept…having come to realize that I didn’t love myself, and thus could not love anything else, and then understanding what that really meant, and then practicing self love and seeing myself and everything around me with new eyes. Required fields are marked *. Are you discounting every person without giving them a chance? I thought this year was going in one direction, then it took off in another. To sacrifice is to give up something precious in order to gain or maintain something, such as a valuable relationship or some other worthy cause. I am still learning the ‘self love thing’. You can't love that which you do not know. Good to see you’re back. Unless the writer was trying to say that love begins for a guy when he approaches a girl. I happen upon a parking lot tucked back off the road. And if that God created me, I believe He is also a part of me. Kinda like breaking the spirit of a wild horse to make him ridable. Go to www.AttractionDoctor.com for more dating and relationship advice (in helpful categories)! The only problem is that "everyone" is eventually labeled as scary. The more we love, the more we love. And I love that – love magnifiers!! Frost talks about. The tree lines, the waterfalls, the mountain peaks – views that are incredible to take in. Lance: Wow… what an amazing post and what an amazing message. One of the most difficult things in the world is accepting who we are and really loving ourselves. My heart begins to race a bit, as the thought of "lost" floats through my head. Yes, that is us – in our imperfectly perfect (and perfectly imperfect) states. Wasn't there something that looked like a path, leading down to where I am? If there's one thing I've learned on my quest for lasting love, which has now spanned decades, it's that successful relationships require a hell of a lot more than feelings. And when I do, I love the world around me more fully, more genuinely…. And when we “see” that…see it in our fellow souls out there in this world…perhaps that gives each of us a deeper and more compassionate heart. This too provides an ego boost. I do wonder aloud though how much locale matters. I love this thought you have shared – about how others are mirrors of us (on the inside). Self love is key. The “all” of us – it is all (for lack of a different word) (grin) of what makes up our being. That time away, it was so good for me. However, when you fall into those traps, you don't see others for who they truly are. Or does true love begin with a relatively instant spark? What a wonderful comeback LOL! Etc. This again protects their self-esteem, providing a ready-made excuse for failure. Wonderful article. Jody – Fit at 53´s Last Fabulous Post ..What I See in the Mirror – Part 1. None of that is here. I think this is why it’s so tough to travel off the path and really connect with our true and loving nature. (and so much more)  See, I think that intrinsically, we are love. In fact, we all do it at times. Lance writes stories from his heart, aiming to inspire and motivate, as you align more fully with YOUR true peak. You have an amazing ability to put thoughts and insights into poetry that speaks right to my heart! Andrew Walker´s Last Fabulous Post ..Etihad Coupons, Your email address will not be published. Love me…love the world around me. Give others a little encouragement when they do what you like (see here). In fact, you are the first person to express it similarly to the way I do. Will I ever know the sweet "hello" That's meant for only me? I always enjoy your posts, but reading this one was a lyrical, poetic, almost ethereal experience. Although, am I always happy with my choices? It won’t be billboards …, I don’t want these gadgets to live my life for me …, p.s. Sometimes all it really takes is remembering the feeling of what we already know to breathe life back into our sails. The flowing water draws my attention, and I make my way toward it. 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Omg Lancikins, you are back!! See more. I loved the way you ended it and what you said about selfless love. There were many. How Angie Got Her Groove Back & You Can Too. "You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." This is fantastic 🙂 And what a beautiful post this is. Does love for self ever feel like that? Our diets are so much more than just the food we consume, it’s a deeper part of the “why” behind what we eat. There is love in that old box (or tire, as was the case for me). Except, are you missing out on something even greater – are you missing out on connecting fully with who you are and the real that comes from knowing you, seeing you, loving you? If we start with ourselves, then what we give to others is more genuine, more fulfilling, more meaningful. No way. Most of the women now are making a very good salary so now most of these women are very high maintenance, independent, selfish, spoiled, greedy, picky, narcissists which is another story altogether right there, and very money hungry as well. Who is this that we call “I”? I notice my footsteps..does anything look like what I saw just ten minutes earlier? It means not being self conscious. It's a selfless love as I'm connecting with me on a deeper and more personal level. Delena Are there any ways to feel it? Not sure what happens in between [life??] Meier´s Last Fabulous Post ..Pursuit- Passion- and Perils- The Story of One Young Entrepreneur. Thank you so much, Ajen, for this today…I’m soaking up your words and letting them just “be” within me. When I realize people want to hear what I have to share. Learn to not take rejection so personally (see here). Read it twice! I find one of the best ways for me to love myself is for me to just pause. Evelyn and I are compiling this report together, and it will be available as a free download soon! Jeremy Nicholson, M.S.W., Ph.D., is a doctor of social and personality psychology, with a focus on influence, persuasion, and dating. This is a very excellent reason why many of us good innocent men are still single today since we really can't blame ourselves at all as well. I love this message and how you’ve shared your beautiful journey with us! other than that... like does start when a guy approaches a girl alright, and if she can manage to keep things interesting, and not have dumb expectations, eventually Love may begin to form for the guy. Thank you. Christian Hollingsworth´s Last Fabulous Post ..“Mom- stop teaching me about blogging!”. Learn to see the best in yourself and others instead. Let's say it is a mid-morning in June. Hi Lance — thanks for this — I think there’s much wisdom in your willingness to acknowledge that there have been times when you haven’t been so loving to yourself — in my experience at least, sharing that sort of thing takes a lot of compassion and trust for myself (in other words, it takes self-love) to do. It is a very nice and interesting post.I enjoy reading it,no doubt you are a great writer,keep writing such a beautiful posts. Awesomeness squared! I know that for some, this is at best “foreign” and at worst “blastphemous” but it’s what I believe…and yes, it is love. Those destructive messages – from friends all the way to the media, and everywhere in between – yes, these can so easily touch our belief system, and how we treat ourselves. And I believe that we ARE WORTHY JUST BY VIRTUE OF BEING BORN. How to Start a Love Story. Self love, it really is a journey – as we continue to know ourselves more and more. Ah, love began with God and grew to embrace the world. We all go through life being told so many destructive messages and little by little our belief system prevents us from thinking we deserve love. Are you passing up individuals for "trivial" reasons. ... you start to become more fully yourselves with each other and your relationship will become richer. ), And it’s such a wonderful point you bring up – knowing our limitations (and being okay with them) is truly self-love. They will only want the very best of all and God forbid should they settle for less which is very unlikely nowadays since most women as it is want a man that makes a lot of money or if he is completely rich to begin with. Certainly. Beverley´s Last Fabulous Post ..Are you utilising this moment, Beverly, The sky is big, the shadows from the mountains an instant reminder of the vastness and grandeur of this land. Sign up for the, January 1, 1970 • 67 comments. What a wonderful thing that is…. What a gift this Savior was (is)! Who are we? Hard to describe. Satvic (tendency to … Where do i begin To tell the story of how great a love can be The sweet love story that is older than the sea The simple truth about the love she brings to me Where do i start With her first hello She gave new meaning to this empty world of mine There'll never be another love, another time She came into my life and made the living fine And, like a vicious circle, it’s all too easy to, ourselves, go out and do that to others, too. When I put the guitar in the car. Suzen, I know that you ARE love, and what a wonderful place to come from as you focus on helping others with nutritional habits. Okay…I’m officially declaring that I WILL love myself more!! That’s such a beautiful way to look at loving yourself. Sandra, Specifically, love is a feeling produced in the pre-optic area, an area in the anterior hypothalamus that connects to the pituitary gland. The song was first introduced as an instrumental theme in the 1970 film Love Story after the film's distributor, Paramount Pictures, rejected the first set of lyrics that were written. If so, then find other ways to feel good about yourself that don't require being superior or judgmental towards others. So, having you here and reading this today is especially meaningful to me. So, make sure to watch out for any biases that may have crept into your dating decisions. Yep, that Buddha guy, he was filled with much wisdom! I know I’ve been given much and I could achieve more than I already have. Debbie, Debbie, It allows the individual to stay in control, in the driver's seat, and superior. I’m not sure. The answer is surprisingly simple. Love that thought – “what is eating you”. Hugs, Hi, this is a wonderful story and message about connecting with who we really are. 2) If you're having a hard time finding someone who is "good enough" - then you might want to check your pre-judging. Breaking that circle, it starts with looking into the deeper recesses of who we are – and being accepting of what is there. 'Til I am beside the someone who She is likely to have been previously hurt in a relationship. 🙂 Again, great post. Thanks for sharing your story. Sorry, got a little deep here, but the post really connected with me. Angela Artemis´s Last Fabulous Post ..How Angie Got Her Groove Back & You Can Too! Beautiful reminder of how we can either spiral up or spiral down depending on how we focus and make meaning along our journey. The preoptic area [ 1] is responsible for thermoregulation and receives nervous stimulation from thermoreceptors in the skin, mucous membranes, and hypothalamus itself. That is me, though – all of these parts, and it's so much more than the clearly marked trail (the image we present to the outer world). It seems that your post has connected with your readers on many levels. !” Thank you for being transparent. I have not heard of Genpo Roshi – so thank you for sharing that here. Thanks so much for sharing your journey with us Lance. Love the thrill of opening up a map and finding obscure roads to travel. Revealing biases is critical. When I stop, silence. Let's take a step back. Karen, thank you so much for these wonderful words today. Unfortunately, there are a couple tricks of the mind that make people overlook perfectly good partners. And when we see ourselves as such, love for self becomes such a greater part of our being. She had written it in response to an intuitive call to create greater Self Love Awareness. …the nooks and crannies that are part of me, the things that no one sees and only I know, …is like a sandbox and veering off the trail, When I choose to love me – the whole me – for who I am, it's a selfless love. Henway´s Last Fabulous Post ..Medifast Recipe Tips. It’s about giving from a place deep within…. This is especially true when whole groups of individuals are looked down upon as "inferior" or "not good enough". (and I recently watched a TED talk by her – so, so good as well). There's also a deeper part of us, too – that getting off of the path. And as always, it starts with home. Lance, I was so touched reading this that I had to read it twice, and then other parts a third time. Two of these biases that people use to protect their self-esteem are: 1) Self-Handicapping - before performing a task, individuals often make excuses as to why the task is hard (or impossible) to accomplish. Happy strumming, sweet friend…your light shines so, so bright…, Hi Lance, Friendships. In essence, they can "save face". Self love is a hard thing. Delena, I believe that I was created by a God that loves me beyond measure. “If you do this or if you can be like this, then I can love you.” But unconditional love means that we can choose to love any time, not just when the “conditions” are right. 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